I have a question that I hope you can help me with.  I live in a '4" home and work in a "4" office.  I am always feeling overwhelmed and overworked.  What do i need to do to balance this energy or calm it down?

Thanks so much!
Donna

Dear Donna,

I notice that the first letter of your first name, Donna is also a 4 (D.)  The whole name, Donna, however, adds up to 3--the number of creativity, fun, joy, and love of acitivity.  Your first vowel 1s an indicator of what motivates you deep in your heart. This first vowel (O = 6) is an important part of your heart's desire number (also called the Soul's Urge.) I think you have an inordinate desire to always do the responsibile thing.

NOTICE YOUR INNER PROCESS 

My guess is that you have a deep need to never find yourself in a position to be "without."  You never want to be accused of not doing everything you can to make life "work out."  The house and office numbers are reminders that in this space, you need to be organized, practical, hard working, and to take charge of your life.

Therefore, the 4 is not the real culprit in making your life so busy and active.  If you use the 4 to organize your time, you may find that some things are time-wasters--busy, yes, but not adding to the overall benefit long-run.  

GET REAL BUT START SMALL

My advice is to take a hard and realistic look at your weekly schedule. Something has to go--anything that you don't have your heart into.

Something has to be added--YOU. Start off by finding 30 minutes during the week, that you will use only for yourself.  I know this sounds like a drop in the bucket, because we all tend to think we need to make draconian changes to our lives in order to make a difference. That's why we never make these big changes.  The trick is to start with a small change that helps you breathe life back into your day.

Finding thirty minutes or an hour and SAVING IT FOR YOURSELF could change your life. The important KEY to making this work is to mark off the time you have selected AHEAD of time.  Make it just like a dentist appointment.  You don't cancel it.  If something comes up during that slot and you need to reschedule, immediately write in another personal date for the following day or next week. 

Your 4 is not a negative task master.  Life is supposed to make us happy. Make it a point to use the qualities of the 4 wisely: 4 = ORGANIZATION, SYSTEMIZATION, TIME-MANAGEMENT, PRACTICAL DECISIONS, COST-CUTTING, EFFICIENCY, PHYSICAL EXERCISE, MASTERING NEGATIVE EMOTIONS (JUDGMENT, RESISTANCE, PROCRASTINATION, FEELING OVERWHELMED, OUT OF CONTROL, OR LIKE A VICTIM.)

1. SYSTEMATIZE--make a set of folders or boxes where you can easily find things (or where you can toss bills for later payment. Write in your calendar the day you intend to deal with this box, or the most important things in the box.)
2. PRIORITIZE--make a list each day of the top 3 things you MUST accomplish.
3. TAKE ACTION. do those top 3 things first.  Be sure to check off your items to feel satisfaction.  If you can do more without much stress, great.
   
4. ORGANIZE --add other chores to the list
   
5. VISUALIZE--offloading chores to a list helps free the mind, so write down everything--
6. ACKNOWLEDGE PROGRESS--checking off things gives a sense of closure and rests the mind
7. WALK--make a habit of walking a few minutes morning or afternoo as a break--this increases efficiency not be mention helping you lose weight and stay healthy
   

 Let me know how you get along!

Carol