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VISION, INTENTION, AND SYNCHRONICITY

"Did you ever take shoes for granted?" KAREN MORRISSEY asked me in a conversation that prompted this interview. I met Karen in March of 2002, in Fort Lauderdale, Florida when I was teaching a class on writing. Karen has a vision. I've never talked to anyone who has as much conviction and intention to bring that vision to an international level. Karen is the founder and executive director of a non-profit organization based in Fort Lauderdale, Shoes for the Soul, that gives new shoes to economically challenged children from newborns to age eighteen.

 

Three years ago, Karen left her executive position in corporate America when she could no longer take the disparity that resulted from working against her sense of integrity and ethics. Suffering from constant hip pains, breast cysts, depression, sleeplessness and other symptoms of stress, Karen felt she was living two lives. "One reason I left corporate America is that I got tired of it being so one-sided. In the situation I was in, it was always, 'What can you do for me?' In my spare time, I was always doing charity work, and then going to work where the question was always, 'What's in it for me?' For example, one day a top level executive of the company came to me and said, "Karen I really like you, your region brought in 51% of our income this year. But why wasn't it higher?" I knew it was time to leave when I heard myself say, 'I don't really want you to like me. I work for money.' That was a big wake-up call.

"I was struggling to make sense of some of the politics and misinformation that was happening. A month before I left, my emails and those of the two of the people that worked for me were wiped out. I thought I was going crazy. One day I got a call and a woman said to me, I want you to know that you are not crazy. They are shredding your documents and changing your reports. She said she quit after she was instructed to do so. My husband, who has been tremendously supportive of me, works in the same industry. Frightened that I was about to break into pieces, he offered to attend a convention with me in Las Vegas. A day after we arrived, I was getting ready to go work my booth. He looked at me and he said, 'It's over, Karen, isn't it? Would you like me to take you home today or tomorrow?' I said, 'Honey, I want to go home today.' I'll never forget him saying, 'Give me a half-hour to make the plane reservations and call your physician.' During the two previous weeks I had been under doctor's care for the significant stress. Immediately upon arriving in Fort Lauderdale, my husband drove me to my office to clean out my desk. I knew I couldn't work there any more. When I got home from the office cleaning, my face had turned such a bright red; he thought I was going to have a stroke. To this day, I have never returned to that building.

"I could not believe that my company could treat me the way they did. My team and I worked very hard and accomplished all our goals, but it was never enough. I was so devastated after I quit that I could literally not chew gum and walk. I remember looking in the mirror and thinking, How could I have come to this state? When I left I had eighteen weeks of accumulated sick days and vacation, which tells you how much of a workaholic I had become. How dedicated I was."

Filing a disability claim for stress allowed Karen to have a partial income while she recuperated and could begin to look to the future. One day, several months after her corporate departure, a friend asked Karen to help her find a place to donate two bags of her children's outgrown shoes. "I believe this was a moment when God stepped in to help me find this path. I made a few calls. I called organizations such as Catholic Charities, Partnership for the Homeless and Kids in Distress. All of them told me that children's shoes were one of their greatest needs. I was astounded. I had read that as a nation Americans consume 65% of the world's goods, and here I was being told that kids still needed shoes. I could not stop thinking about it. I started to piece things together. I did my homework. I looked for organizations that specifically gave new shoes to children, but there were none in this area.

Hearing the Call

"I know that Spirit ... the Universe puts ideas in your mind at certain crossroads. I thought about my experience in corporate marketing and sales, and got an idea of going to corporate America and asking for their seconds, overstocked, or discontinued shoes. Children would get the new shoes, and a business would get a tax write-off and PR from their donation, if they wanted it. It would be a win-win. I began to do an exhaustive search on www.guidestar.org , the search engine for non-profits, and put in children and shoes. I came up with 187 hits. I had the idea of one non-profit helping another. I heard that each of us is going to walk about 115,000 miles on our feet during our lifetime. When I formed Shoes for the Soul, I felt it would be a simple, but phenomenal thing to do--to put a new pair of shoes on the feet of a child.

"I had found my mission of how to serve another human being. The other non-profits piece these children back together in some form - emotionally, mentally, etc. They shelter them. I simply wanted to give them a new pair of shoes and spread a light of hope."

The Vision Takes Shape

"I took some local courses on forming non-profit 501-C3s. I had a paralegal background, so I researched everything. We distribute the new shoes through social workers and family case workers. Schools and other non-profits are required to tell us about the population they serve and why they need the shoes and requests are passed along to and discussed with at least three board members. Our present focus is Broward County in Florida, and we have been asked to move into Miami. My ultimate goal is to serve children nationwide and internationally.

"The kids we serve have usually been abused mentally, emotionally, and physically. I have heard so many, many heartbreaking stories. A gym teacher told me about a pair of seven year old twin boys. She couldn't figure out why one boy was missing gym class. She found out they were sharing a pair of shoes. so he only could come to class every other week. A clinic of a major hospital that just wrote a letter saying they have approximately sixty children and siblings in need of shoes. These kids are afflicted with HIV and their families have a rough time around the start of the school year. Some of these children's entire families have been wiped out because of the HIV virus. Our goal is to place a pair of shoes on their feet. The largest groups of children we work with are part of the homeless education program.

I didn't know this before, but there is a national association of homeless school coordinators. At the turn of the century, homelessness was a children's issue. One hundred years later, it still is. The children that live in shelters all have a family case worker. They send me a list of children, age. the shoe size and the kind of shoes needed-such as, dress shoes, school shoes, or athletic shoes. Each pair of shoes has a little tag that says Shoes for the Soul, with the child's name, age, and shoe size. It's a personalized gift. We currently have about four thousand pairs of shoes in our warehouse."

Karen reflects, "I used my severance pay to start Shoes for the Soul and I've never regretted it for a second. I've changed my entire lifestyle. I gave up the housekeeper I had once a week. I've put away my Nieman Marcus credit card, and I'm the happiest I've ever been. I'm down from a size of six dress to a size two and I eat very healthily. About two years ago I stopped drinking soda. Now I just drink water and green tea. I've had several people ask me if I've had a face lift! I guess I didn't realize how much the stress had aged me when I worked at my previous career. I exercise regularly every day, and I feel balanced. I'm Catholic by background , and after looking at both religion and spirituality, I've chosen spirituality I guess if I could sum it up in a phrase, I serve others to the best of my ability in all that I say and do. I'm very grateful that God allowed me to look at the word ego and really see what it meant. Today ego means to me: Easing God Out.

"I have learned that you can manifest absolutely anything you want. With the change in my lifestyle, good things just keep happening. All you have to do is ask." I asked Karen if synchronicities had played a big part in her new life. "Oh, yes!"

My husband has been so very supportive, even when my work with Shoes for the Soul sort of took over most of our house. One day, he said, 'Here is $3,000 loan for the office/warehouse space I just found for you. I have been looking for weeks. You cannot use our house anymore. You are on your own.' The day I was signing the lease to the office, I got an email from a colleagues telling me they had a client who was in the furniture business and needed to give away all kinds of office furniture, so I got everything I needed. Shortly thereafter, I needed an office computer and a friend said I just got a new computer, do you need my old one? It is in perfect condition. This enabled me to have two computers at the office, one for me and one for a volunteer. One of my board members' dad was in the shoe business. She heard about me from a newspaper article, and told me that she had had two wishes as a little girl. One was to either marry a shoe executive like her dad or to open a children's shoe store. She came into my life when I really needed support. She also feels her life has totally changed for the better because she has found a way to give back. She had a privileged childhood in New York City. After recovering from a life-threatening illness, she was grateful to be alive. She always wanted to give back and didn't know how, and shortly thereafter we met. She constantly tells me, 'Shoes for the Soul' has changed my life.

After deciding she wanted to meet Susie Levan, the editor and publisher of Balance - Personal Growth For Women magazine, Karen had a synchronistic meeting with Levan, who also became a board member and enthusiastic supporter.

"Everyday I keep letting go of doubt and fear," says Karen. "The month I thought I couldn't pay the rent, a developer in Ft. Lauderdale gave me an unexpected gift - a check for $5,000. He is an incredible person who sees this mission. If you believe in something with all of your heart-without doubt or mistrust-it will happen. I put it out to the Universe and say, 'I really need this, and I don't doubt that it's coming.'

My goal now is to meet Susan Sarandon because she's such an activist. She is not afraid to speak for what she believes in. Another goal is speaking with Oprah. She speaks from her heart. I know I will meet her one day and be on her charity show. The goal of my board and myself is to become an international organization within a certain period of time.

Karen sees children who will probably never even have the ability to walk into a Payless or Wal-mart store. For example, shoes were given to a group of children from Haiti and the Caribbean. "We gave them gorgeous, bright colored flowered and jeweled sandals that are so in style now," she says, "You should have seen their faces. Their eyes were like saucers. One little girl, said, 'Can I take these home?' I said, "Honey, they are yours. Let's break open this bag. ' You should have seen the shoes they were wearing before-old, dirty, torn and some glued together. I was so touched by their gratitude and happiness that I went back to the office and gave them each another pair."

"We received a thank you card from a thirteen-year-old girl, who lives in a shelter, with a drawing of a shoe tied with shoelaces, and the message, "I wear my shoes to help me find some clues, to figure out my blues. Thank you for the shoes,' Love Tina. We believe that if kids receive a gift of shoes just because they need them, they, too, will learn to give. Another child wrote a card that said, 'Thank you, thank you, thank you again. Thank you for the shoes. Now when I get some shoes, I will donate some.'

How You Can Help

Karen is looking for funding, additional corporate sponsors, and shoe companies that can donate overstock. "I want to be their charity! I have a laundry list of needs. "Specifically, she could also boys and girls athletic shoes, plastic shoe bags that close with drawstrings or colorful plastic ties. "I'd love to have someone design some Angel-wing labels on which to write the child's name! Angels are universal" She also welcomes hearing from other people who might want to start chapters, in other places, or volunteers for administrative tasks.

CONTACT INFORMATION:

KAREN MORRISSEY Ft. Lauderdale, FL (954) 229-2344 or 1-800-866-49SHOES EMAIL: kmorrissey@shoesforthesoul.org

Happy September,
Carol Adrienne

 
TALES OF SYNCHRONICITY

Synchronicity keeps moving us forward. We don't always understand its meaning at the time, but in retrospect it seems to open a door for learning, or for connecting us to something important. I have several accounts of serendipity to share with you.

 

Kay Carlson wrote to me about her encounters with the Master Number 22, which is a powerful reminder of our spiritual roots. "One night early in my second pregnancy, I was startled out of sleep by loud static from our television in the den. I sat up and looked at the digital clock and the time was 2:22 am. When I went into the den I saw that the TV was tuned to Channel 22, a channel we did not have at the time. My husband said the dog most likely jumped up on the couch and hit the remote. Who knows? All I know is that ever since, whenever I just happen to glance at a clock, it is 22 past any given hour. I see 22 on television programs, movies, dates, but mostly on clocks. I glanced down at my vehicle odometer recently, and it had just rolled over to 22, 222 miles! At first I was frightened and confused, but I now feel comforted knowing that there is a higher power and purpose behind all of this."

The Synchronistic Effect

Noticing the repeated presence of special numbers has the effect of turning up the volume on our every day life, lifting us to a higher plane of understanding ourselves and our place in the Universe.

Another stimulating effect is seeing our dreams come true. Rosalie, an outgoing forty-year-old massage therapist, shared several stories which show just how clearly and quickly the Universe can answer our desires. Rosalie said, "I've always been lucky, and I always follow my intuition. Several years ago, I was working as a temp, and I went to interview at a store. The manager was too busy with customers to talk to me. Something told me not to leave, and it just came to me to say, 'I'll work for you one hour without pay to get these customers served. If you don't like me you don't have to pay me.' She let me do it, and by the end of the hour, she said, 'Wow you are great!' and by the end of the month I was the supervisor."

Signals or Triggers

Three years later, as Rosalie was driving to another temp agency, a beautiful office building caught her attention. She thought to herself that she'd like to work there. She asked the interviewer at the agency if there were any jobs in that building. A day later the interviewer called and said, 'You won't believe this, but an administrative job at a newspaper just opened up in that building." Rosalie not only got the temporary job, but when a permanent job came up--even though she didn't have the college degree necessary-she got promoted. Five years later she became a reporter, and was eventually elected editor of the newspaper.

Next, Rosalie got the travel bug from her Finnish boyfriend who talked about seeing the world. The next thing she knew, she was part of a huge lay-off in her company, and received a $6,000 final check, which allowed her to travel to the foreign countries she had always wanted to see. "I had the time and the money, so it was time to go."

Intention, Positive Expectation, and Direct Action

I noticed Rosalie's stories almost always included positive statements about what she wanted (intentions), and that she often took direct action on her intuition. For example, on her travels, Rosalie promised herself that when she returned, she would only take work she really enjoyed. She says, "One day when I got back, I was listening to the radio, and heard about a new aquarium opening up in San Francisco. Ever since I was a child, I've wanted to be a diver in an aquarium. I already had my scuba driver certification, so I decided to call them up. They said the department wasn't quite open yet, and transferred me to a voice mail. I left a long message thinking it was the Human Resource department. I was excited when they called me for an interview, because I've always been offered a job when I go for an interview [italics added]. Amazingly, the woman I met with didn't even interview me. She just shook my hand and said, 'Welcome aboard, how much diving do you want to do? We only have a clerical position open.' I said that I wanted to dive as much as possible, and she said, 'Would two days a week work for you?' Everything worked out great. I set up a whole office for her and trained the staff and then did the scuba diving. I had always wanted to work in the shark tank to get over my fear of sharks, and so now I have over a 1,000 hours of swimming with the sharks.

"This woman told me after I was hired that there had been dozens of resumes from experienced dive masters who were turned down for the job. I couldn't help asking her why it was so easy for me to get hired? She said, 'You know, when I met you, I thought you were a personal friend of the president because you left your message on his voicemail, and he told me to call you!'" Rosalie worked at the aquarium for three years, was interviewed for Sport Diver Magazine and her segment was aired on ESPN. She is now recognized as a professional sport diver.

Rosalie has been able to "fall" into other opportunities, which matched her goals. "In addition to my diving experiences, I worked in yacht sales, which allowed me to earn my skipper's license. I always wanted to be a teacher, and I'm now a certified instructor in a holistic massage school."

Rosalie also remembers major turns of good luck when travelling. Once, she accidentally left her purse on a Swedish ship. Realizing it on the train a half hour later, she mentioned it to the conductor, who said, "Oh, no, that ship's long gone on its way back to Germany! Let me see what I can do." Within an hour the conductor told her the ship had turned around for her, and they had put her purse in a taxi. "When I got off the train, three uniformed men came up to me and said, 'Are these your belongings? Welcome to Sweden.'" Another time in England she missed the last train to Thirsk. A train conductor heard her plight, disappeared for a moment, and came back with a cab driver, who drove her to her cousin's house (an hour trip) at no cost. Compliments of British Rail, he said.

Assume the Universe is Conspiring on Your Behalf

The lessons Rosalie has learned? "You have a dream for a reason. Put your dream out to the universe and trust that what you need to accomplish it will be provided. I feel like I can just talk out loud and wish for something to happen and it does. I don't give myself credit for what has happened. I have to say it's a Higher Power behind all this, even though I am not a religious person."

Rosalie confided that she believes these good things happen to her because her dad is watching over her. Rosalie was five when her Dad died. "Two years later, I was sleeping with my Mom, and I woke up suddenly. I saw what looked to me like an Angel. I thought I should be scared but I wasn't. I have never felt so peaceful in my whole life. It was a miraculous feeling that I have never been able to duplicate since then. I remember pinching myself, Am I awake? I couldn't speak. The Angel drifted toward my Mom's side of the bed, and they started talking in whispers. I must have fallen asleep again, because the next day I woke up thinking that the Angel was so real, it couldn't have been a dream. My mom was already in the kitchen cooking breakfast, and she was saying to her boyfriend the same thing: 'It couldn't have been a dream.' I said, 'Mom, are you talking about the Angel that walked into the room last night? Who was that?' Mom said, 'That was your father. It wasn't a dream, it was very real.' Mom said he told her that he came from 'beyond beyond' and pointed to the sky. He wanted to make sure the family was okay and that she was doing all right with me and my eleven brothers and sisters. I do think my Dad is watching over me."

Reverse Synchronicity?

Sometimes synchronicity seems to set in motion big advances in our lives, and then stops for some reason. John Aiken recounted a time when he and a friend came up with a good business idea. Things started falling into place. They made good contacts, found a workspace, bought equipment, but just before they were to open for business, his friend pulled out. "I feel like I can make things happen to a certain point," says John, "but then it seems to stop. I thought about doing the project by myself, but didn't follow through."

I was curious to know if John had any warning intuitions during the synchronistic flow -- ones that he might have disregarded. "I don't remember, but this was not the first time I had had this kind of start and stop experience. Maybe the lesson for me is that I put too much faith in other people. Maybe it's been wishful thinking that they will help me get something going. I have a million ideas, but I think my lesson is to take myself more seriously and connect to my own internal power."

As John was telling me about his pattern of getting embroiled with people who didn't come through as promised, I couldn't help wonder what indications of these problems might show up in his numerology chart. A quick study told us that he has a karmic issue with leadership (the karmic number 19/1 appeared three times in his chart). The number 19 means that he chose a lifetime to learn how to stand up for his ideas, and take responsibility for offering them to as large an audience as possible (as shown by his Nine Destiny, which stands for culture, spirituality, and the masses).

Stalled

Sometimes when it seems that synchronicity has stalled, it gives us a chance to rethink what we are doing that is not working. When you feel stalled, ask yourself:

 

  • Do I need to rethink my goals or priorities?
  • Do I need to take back my power, or take things into my own hands?
  • Is the message to wait for a better time?
  • Am I overlooking something that may be a problem down the road?
  • Trust in the Flow

    Vanessa Longul from Canada loves how synchronicity appears in her life and continues to open new doors. A registered nurse with a brand-new baby, Vanessa and her husband, Tom, are both musicians. Her goal is to develop a full-time career in music management. "I feel that if I am open to new opportunities and aware of my intuition, a lot will happen. This spring I decided not to take a part time job, in order to work on my music bookings. Once I started setting my intention for the bookings, they flowed in. I also got emails for flute lessons and bookings for Tom and myself."

    To increase her synchronistic flow, Vanessa is also trying to be more loving and less judgmental to herself and others. Yoga helps her stay centered, and she focuses on the idea of meeting good people who can help her go to the next step. "I had a couple of incidents where I met people I was wanting to meet. For example I love Dan Gibson's yoga music. I just met a woman who works for him, and she can get me his CDs wholesale! Tom and I were playing a gig at a remote venue and a musician I had wanted to book happened to be there, and he was looking for management. I was also looking to connect with a certain woman I had met once. I didn't know where to find her, but within a week I ran into her in the supermarket, and she was very receptive to my questions and gave me her contact number. Tom and I had been looking for a violin player for our band. I just knew we would find the right person. Two days later we got the name and number of a violinist, who was looking for the same kind of band as we have. He's working out really well." (NOTE: I italicized Vanessa's belief that she would find the right person as an example of a positive belief that magnetizes results.)

    Vanessa continues, "The music is going great, and I wanted to supplement it with a part-time nursing job. One day it popped into my mind to call one particular agency, and it turned out they had a day-time position, which is usually very hard to get. I'm happy to have it, but if it detracts from my music business, I may rethink doing it. I think it's important not to go just for the paycheck, if it limits your flow in the direction you really want to go. It is scary to take that risk, but I am trying to trust the universal energy to match my intentions."

    Journal of Synchronicity

    Vanessa started writing a journal in May about her coincidences. She feels it increases her awareness of how her day has gone. She looks for little clues she might have overlooked in the moment. "I seem to be able to attract who and what I need. If you don't have any restrictions on where you end up, it could be anywhere!" Vanessa Longul is open to meeting and booking musicians who do original folk music. Please contact her at milnemanagement@cogeco.ca.

    Happy August,
    Carol Adrienne

     
    AUTHENTICITY

    The idea of being authentic has caught our attention much like the word empowered did a few years ago. It's curious why authenticity seems so valuable to us that we talk about what it means, wonder if we have it, and search for ways to find it and express it. What makes us think we aren't authentic?

    The other day I was talking to a thirty-four-year-old mother of two small children who lives in Minnesota. I'll call her Rae. She told me, "I'm not real thrilled with life right now. My kids are two-and-a-half and four-and-half, and I went back to work last January selling real estate. I've done sales, customer service, and public relations but I don't like the idea of hopping around in my jobs. Real estate is okay, I guess, but I really love metaphysical stuff. Reading books on spirituality recharges me. My family all goes to church, but church doesn't seem to fit for me anymore. I need to find my life purpose!"

    Becoming Aware

    She went on to describe her inner restlessness, her feeling she is "not doing something right" and her growing conflict with her parents and husband. My hunch is that Rae is in a process of shifting values within a milieu that is familiar but not very supportive of her search for fulfillment. Like many of us who are unhappy with where we are, Rae was putting the focus on finding her purpose-which for her meant finding the right career. However, finding the right career can be a mythical panacea that is not the answer to our deepest inner longings to feel recognized, happy, and fulfilled.

    Last month in this column, I mentioned the book by Paul Ray and Sherry Ruth Anderson, The Cultural Creatives. In that book the authors describe three main streams of consciousness operating in the United States: the Traditionalists, the Modernists, and the Cultural Creatives. As Rae and I talked about the values and interests of these three groups, she realized that most of her friends and family held beliefs that sounded like the Traditionalists-e.g., a patriarchal view of family life, traditional roles for men and women, family, church and community are where you belong, and adhering to conservative customs that maintain familiar ways of life. She felt particularly at odds with the idea that all the guidance you need for your life can be found in the Bible. Her desire to work and have an independent income was not only viewed with criticism by her parents who thought she should devote herself completely to being a wife and mother, but also by her husband. Their frequent fights over her work hours is costing her much anxiety and guilt.

    Original Nature is Shaped by Conditioning

    As children we have no trouble being authentic. Remember when you woke up in the summer happy with anticipation for the day? Remember the joy you took in having your friends sleep over? Remember your parents' mixed reaction when you blurted out some delightful, albeit disconcerting, blunt truth? Growing up, we naturally question authority or the status quo because curiosity and the need to understand how the world works are prime motivations in our developing psyche. At some critical point, however, it is inevitably driven home to us that in order to get along in the world, sometimes we need to withhold our opinions, listen to our elders, deny what we see and hear, lie low or even lie. We begin the process of putting a lot of stuff-beliefs, opinions, self-criticisms, pain, fear, disappointments, humiliations, anger, rage, feelings of distrust and abandonment in a closet-with the idea that maybe it will go away or we'll sort it out later.

    Making a Break

    Each of us is born into a family or a situation that already has a code and a belief system that works to some degree. For those of us who are adventurous enough-or unhappy enough-to search for personal fulfillment, we may find we are attracted to interests, cultures, lifestyles, or beliefs that don't jibe with past conditioning. Usually, without any conscious intention to upset the status quo, we find that we're "not in Kansas anymore, Toto," as Dorothy in The Wizard of Oz once said. One of the most poignant interviews I had was a few years ago with a teacher named Jim who lived in the Mid-west. His wife was also a teacher and one day they were looking over the salary schedule for teachers. He said, "My wife looked at it and was excited to know that every year she would receive a 5% pay raise and would retire at 65 with a pension. We had just bought a house and all the furniture we would ever need, and when I thought about how the next forty years were all mapped out for me, I got profoundly depressed."

    By his family's standards, Jim and his wife had everything. He said that given his family's outlook, he would have found it easier to commit suicide than to get a divorce. Eventually, he told his family he was going west to give himself a chance to pursue his dreams of being a comedian. As painful as the decision was, he later divorce, met the love of his life, and now is active in spiritual teachings and is a master of ceremonies in a comedy club. Jim's need to live an authentic life was literally a life or death issue.

    Inner Listening-Alert Presence

    The voice of the authentic self seems to be the same as the intuitive voice, that quiet, but persistent voice that whispers new ideas to us in the middle of the night, on vacation, or after meditating. Intuition speaks in short, clear messages that are qualitatively different from the repetitive mind chatter that makes us feel anxious. Intuition tells us where the authentic choice is-for us.

    When we are birthing a more authentic version of ourselves-especially when we are unconsciously growing away from the familiar unspoken contracts and agreements we have with people, we experience some or all of the following feelings, which Rae expressed in our conversation. I asked her to state what she does not want as the first step in identifying what she does want. She said, "I don't want to be dependent on anyone. I don't want to feel unsure of myself. I don't want to be tired all the time. I don't want to be negative, to always see the down side, or to expect the worst. I don't want to be a fearful worry wart. I don't want to be a people-pleaser. I don't want to feel that I am not being authentic."

    In a recent article in Noetic Sciences Review (March-May 2003), Eckhart Tolle, author of The Power of Now, says, "More and more, you realize that you are not your thoughts, because they come and go. They're all conditioned; they're all just the contents of your mind. Instead of deriving a sense of self from those contents, you realize that you can simply observe the contents. A deeper sense of self arises then. That is the aware presence, and it feels very spacious and peaceful, no matter what happens in your mind."

    Below is a list of some of feelings that comprise a syndrome of inauthenticity- which occurs when our inner needs, values, and self-image don't match our outer expression, behaviors, and accomplishments-and some major characteristics of an authentic person.

    Inauthentic Self
  • Feels anxious
  • Is a people-pleaser
  • Second guesses every decision
  • Rationalizes
  • Is rigid
  • Wants to impress others
  • Says or does things he regrets
  • Doesn't expect much
  • Placates
  • Hides or denies feelings
  • Feels like a victim
  • Is paralyzed or hyperactive
  • Uses addictive behavior
  • Confused and overwhelmed
  • Feels helpless or hopeless
  • Is depressed or angry
  • Trapped in endless mind chatter
  • Authentic Self
  • Feels optimistic
  • Is honest and open
  • Commits but is flexible
  • Thinks for himself
  • Goes with the flow, open to change
  • Wants to do her best
  • Knows when to apologize
  • Knows how to accept and receive
  • Negotiates
  • Listens to feelings
  • Takes responsibility
  • Acts when appropriate
  • Makes healthy choices
  • Knows when to stop and reevaluate
  • Knows how to ask for help
  • Feels happy a lot of the time
  • Tuned to a larger field of intelligence
  • Challenging Situations

    It's easy to assume that once you learn the secret of authenticity, you are going to be confident, balanced, wise, and resourceful all the time! However, some situations carry more stress, which may cause us to regress into old patterns. Think of the times you have attended cocktail parties, business meetings, job interviews, high school reunions, and blind dates. These are the Authenticity Olympics for most of us!! Begin to notice with which friends you feel more yourself-more authentic. You may feel more comfortable in small gatherings--or oddly enough, meeting a stranger on a plane where you find yourself spilling out feelings you haven't shared even with family members. It's easier to be authentic when your identity is secondary to other actions, like chatting with the owner of an adorable and friendly dog. A good sign that you are feeling authentic is when you feel expanded and relaxed. Feeling hemmed in or contracted is a sign that you are shutting down and not being as present as you could be.

    Start Now

    Becoming a self-confident, happy, and fulfilled person who uses her talents to create prosperity and well-being--as well as to give service to others--is a life-long task. How might you increase your sense of being truly authentic?

  • MEDITATE. Practice clearing the mind regularly. Observe passing thoughts as if they were clouds.
  • SPECIFY THE FEAR. When you feel fear about some new action or decision, write down exactly what you are afraid might happen. Get very clear about the shape of the fear and what you are actually dealing with.
  • FIND THE ROOT. Ask yourself, Whose voice is talking to me? Who is making me afraid? Is it my voice? My parents? The voice of mass media?
  • MANAGE AROUND THE FEAR. Write down specific things you could do to work around the fear so that you can take a small step in spite of it.
  • DROP SELF-DOUBT. The best way to feel good about yourself is to complete something that you have been putting off, or to set one small goal and achieve it. Nothing begins to erase self-doubt more easily than a little string of successes.
  • LOOK FOR A THIRD SOLUTION. Whenever you are agonizing over two choices, remember that this polarization serves a purpose-to keep you from taking any step. When lost in black and white thinking, look for a third option.
  • APPRECIATE YOUR UNIQUENESS. Everyone has a special knack, talents, and skills. Everyone.
  • STOP STRUGGLING. There is a time for perseverance and a time to let go.
  • ENJOY THE MOMENT. Take delights in small pleasures and beauty. Be with people you love and enjoy.
  • TAKE TIME. Slow down. Avoid the tendency to fill up the space.
  • STAND UP FOR WHAT YOU BELIEVE. Nothing drains energy more than suppressing action, passion, and commitment.
  • SIMPLIFY. Troubles arise when we set ourselves up to do too many things or to manage too much stuff. Being authentic is being able to say yes when you mean it and no when you need to.
  • SPEND MORE TIME IN NATURE. The beauty, quiet, and harmony of nature helps you observe your thoughts as separate from who you are. Natural surroundings help put options into perspective. Peaceful sounds of birds, flowing water, wind, and waves lull the mental chatter and clear the mind. To quote Eckhart Tolle, "When your sense of self is no longer tied to thought, is no longer conceptual, there is a depth of feeling of sensing, of compassion, of loving that was not there when you were trapped in mental concepts. You are that depth."
  • You need not make huge changes in your life to experience being more alert and present. Acting on any one of the choices above can immediately change how you experience your life.

     
    THE TRICKLE UP EFFECT

    Change the World - From Your Living Room Are you craving to have a more fulfilling life? Is the world situation motivating you to make a difference somewhere, somehow? Last month Women of Vision

    organized an international focus on women. All over the world, women gathered together for celebrations, meditations, and festivities. At one such gathering - Gather the Women - in Oakland, California, I met CARMEL JUD. She had a booth featuring beautiful jewelry, crafts and textiles from around the world. Even more impressive was her personal story.

    Carmel and her husband Brian have an advertising research and production company called Carmel Jud Creative Group. Carmel told me that in the past two years, her life has undergone a complete change of focus. She feels she has found a fulfilling purpose. Her epiphany began with books, of course!

    Carmel told me, “There were three key books that played a role in the big changes in my life. The first was Deepak Chopra’s, The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success. I opened the book to the place where he asks, ‘If you had all the time and the money in the world, what would you do?’ and ‘How are you best suited to serve humanity?’ I was shocked to realize that, even though I felt successful in my business, I couldn’t answer those questions. Suddenly, I had a burning desire to have the answers. to those questions. This began a two-year quest. During that time I read your book, Find Your Purpose, Change Your Life. The exercises helped me identify my values and priorities. I knew that I needed to do something people-oriented. I wanted to help in a hands-on way. And I wanted to be part of something big.

    “After the events of 911, I was drawn to the plight of Afghani women. I researched online and found Mavis Leno’s (comedian Jay Leno’s wife) organization, which sells crafts made by Afghani women in refugee camps. I volunteered to sell the crafts at home parties.

    “Shortly after I started doing the parties I found a third inspirational book, In Her Hands: Craftswomen Changing the World by Paola Gianturco and Toby Tuttle. This book opened my eyes even further. I learned that poverty has a woman’s face. 1.3 billion people in the world survive on less than a dollar a day. Seventy percent are women. It isn’t just Afghani women, but women all over the world who suffer needlessly. The book showed me that many of these women are rising above their circumstances by creating and selling beautiful crafts imbued with the heart and soul of their lives and cultures.

    “One part of this book that really struck me," Carmel says, “is the information on what they call ‘the sequence of results’ when women earn money and educate children. A 1995-1999 United Nations research study revealed that when women in developing countries earn an income, it triggers an incredible sequence of events. For example:

     

  • birth rates drop
  • infant and maternal mortality are reduced
  • family planning increases
  • nutrition, health, and life expectancy are enhanced
  • housing and sanitation improve
  • the gross domestic product grows
  • “This was a revelation. I suddenly realized that real change in the world can happen. We can change the world by giving women the opportunity to make money for themselves and for their families. We can reduce population and world hunger, increase health, sanitation, and education by assisting the entrepreneurial endeavors of women!

    “I suddenly had the elements I needed to pursue my original goal of working with people, doing it in a hands-on way, and being part of something really big!”

    The Cultural Creatives

    Carmel’s story is a perfect example of following the subtle calling of one’s life purpose, and changing the world by becoming one of the new forces of influence - defined as the Cultural Creatives by Paul Ray, Ph.D. and Sherry Ruth Anderson, Ph.D. in their fascinating book The Cultural Creatives.

    If you haven’t read this book, I highly recommend it as way to understand the cultural revolution going on in the US. In brief, the authors describe three distinct streams of influence in America: the Traditionalists (exemplified by leaders such as Jimmy Carter, Pope John Paul II), the Modernists (people like George H.W. Bush, Ted Kennedy, Trent Lott), and the Cultural Creatives (Barbara Boxer, Vaclav Havel, Martin Luther King, Jr.). The authors claim there are at least 50 million Cultural Creatives in the US. Their characteristics are detailed in the book, and my hunch is that most of you reading this article are part of this subculture. Cultural Creatives are defined by their values and buying choices. They value a lifestyle that is a reflection of their interests in alternative medicine, healthy nutrition, other cultures and educational travel, the environment, ecology and recycling, books, authenticity, and personal and spiritual growth.

    Ray and Anderson write, “Cultural Creatives are at the leading edge of some of the most interesting developments in American culture…There can be no step-by-step description about how to become a Cultural Creative. It is a process of culture-making with tens of millions of people doing it in their own ways... They want a ‘new deal,’ a chance to remake their lives and our institutions around deeper values. By doing so, they may be developing a culture that will sustain us and our children’s children over the long term.”

    First Step: An Inner Departure

    You may have already taken the first step in becoming a Cultural Creative. Ray and Anderson call this first step an “inner departure” from the entrancement of the dominant culture. This happened for Carmel when something inside prompted another look at Chopra’s book, where she is transfixed by two questions (not unlike the archetype of the Hero(ine's) mythic quest.

    Second Step: Setting Out

    Off she goes into the world to find her answers. This is the second step in a Cultural Creative’s journey, what Ray and Anderson term “setting out.” The catalyzing awakening of 9/11 and her attraction to the plight of Afghani women (which was widely dispersed through Internet messages and public focus by other Cultural Creatives doing their thing) led her to follow through with research, synchronistically finding a way to get more involved. At this point she is working on blind intuition and feeling her way into a deeper commitment, which will come later. The path of Cultural Creatives is fraught with not-knowingness and uncertainty. You are a pioneer and are creating new solutions.

    Third Step: Confronting the Critic(s)

    Interestingly, when Carmel wrote down a list of options that appealed to her, working with women’s crafts was at the top of the list, but she didn’t start working on it right away. Carmel says, “At first, I resisted the idea of the crafts business because it was my first idea, and it seemed to come too easily. I sort of thought, ‘This can’t be it since finding my life work will take a lot more searching. I pursued several other ideas like doing corporate team building, doing a non-profit flower delivery, and setting up a greeting card line. But nothing clicked. I kept being haunted by the craft idea, and I continued to host the Afghani parties.” Part of this resistance may be a form of the third step outlined by Ray and Anderson, called Confronting the Critics. Our dreams and vision may seem too radical or impractical, either by people we share it with, or by our own initial fears and ego reaction. We experience resistance during a testing period to see what works and what doesn’t.

    Fourth Step: Turning Your Values Into a New Way of Life

    When the fourth step occurs, it’s time for the Cultural Creative to do what Ray and Anderson call, “turning your values into a new way of life.” Carmel says, “One day I told my husband, ‘I have to launch this idea.' On May 11, 2002 I formed an organization called Rising International.”

    Carmel’s goal is to promote economic development for impoverished women and families around the world by sharing their stories and selling their handmade crafts at home parties. By doing this she feels she is nurturing the spirit of connection between all people and cultures while actively supporting Fair Trade. She says, “There is a sense that these women have reached out over mountains and oceans to share their story with us.”

    When It’s Right, Synchronicities Support Action

    How does she find the craft items? I asked. Carmel recounts the amazing flow of synchronicities that occurred once she became truly committed to her new direction. “The connections just seemed to fall my way. For instance, I met various Peace Corps volunteers at trade shows and at my home parties who helped connect us to women in different countries. We find people from developing countries in our communities in the San Francisco Bay Area, and invite them to speak for a fee at our parties. For example, we’ve had local women from Afghanistan, Sri Lanka, and Nepal come into living rooms and share their stories and experiences in their home countries. The impact their stories have on people is so powerful. When a complete stranger shares his or her life story, people begin to soften and let down their guard. They begin to care. When more and more people begin to care about all the people in the world, that’s when transformation happens in ripples.”

    New Values and Creativity

    How do Carmel and her husband support themselves and fund her new business? I asked. “I am still working in advertising, but I’m more selective. Even though my income has dropped drastically, I’ve reduced my living expenses so that I can put more time and energy into RISING. Brian and I were renting a house for $3,000 a month. A friend heard about our new company and gave us a free place to live in a remodeled barn. We have a smaller house but I’m happier. We have everything we need, and we are blessed with a lot of volunteers who help us with RISING. My happiness doesn’t come just from how much money I’m making. When you really believe in something, it seems like resources appear just when you need them. There have been a lot of big and little financial miracles that happened, almost mysteriously, to smooth the way.

    “I look at money and spending very differently now. For example, in my previous life I wouldn’t have thought twice about spending $200 on dinner. Now, I look at that amount and think, ‘how far could $200 go in buying materials for women to create their handicrafts—like jewelry, textiles, tablecloths, wall hangings, pillow cases, baby booties, shawls, scarves, and purses. Or how could I use that money to pay someone to speak?”

    So far, Carmel has done little traveling to find handicrafts, as some artisans now have access to email. For example, in Indonesia she orders goods from a German woman who organizes a women’s co-op. Carmel emphasizes that all crafts are bought by fair trade importers. Fair trade insures that the artisan is paid a fair wage, that they are paid in advance, and that there is a long-term trade relationship to avoid exploitation. So far her fair trade home parties have been in California, but plans are underway to expand nationwide.

    Opportunities to Get Involved

    How can others get involved? She says, “I invite anyone to call me if they are interested in putting together a gathering in their area. I am also looking for funding to create a catalog and collect enough inventory so that we can expand nationwide. I’d love to have volunteers with expertise in catalog design. Our website is under development, but I need someone like a project manager to design, print, and distribute the catalog. The next phase is collecting, organizing, and storing inventory that can be shipped to home party representatives. Our plan is to offer women in the US the opportunity to have their own business selling these crafts. We’re doing a pilot program right now that’s working very well."

    Keep the Vision

    Carmel says, “I know this organization is going to develop widely because even though we are brand-new and do no advertising, people keep calling me every day to find out how they can get involved. We are currently working with a non-profit De Solay Daywa (Afghani for Torch of Peace) to send over 100 containers filled with much-needed supplies collected from all over the San Francisco Bay Area—items such as warm clothing, tents, buckets, cooking utensils, and medical supplies for the people of Afghanistan, because they have nothing. It’s hard to start a business when your children are starving and dying in the snow. We are planning to be there when containers arrive to oversee distributions.

    “Every day is so exciting. I continue to hear about new women’s groups. Yesterday I picked up crafts from Lithuania — darling little baby booties. Tomorrow I’ll be picking up jewelry from Nepal. Then I’ll meet with a fair trade importer involved with Hungarian women living in Romania who are making pillow cases out of cotton and hemp with hand-woven thread.

    If You Have A Dream, Take Action to Make It Real

    Carmel encourages others to follow their heart. “I’ve talked to a lot of people who hear about what I’m doing, and share with me their own dreams, but are afraid to take that first step. They say they are confused or in the dark, but when I ask them what they think would be one first step, there usually is something they’ve been thinking about doing. I’ve come to believe that the worst thing about the first step is not taking it. I tell them to trust that idea and do it.” Carmel reflects, “I like to think that if three million women can sell Avon products, imagine what three million women could do by selling crafts to improve the lives of the poorest women in the world.”

    CONTACT INFO:

    CARMEL JUD
  • (831) 722-2141
  • carmel@risinginternational.com
  • www.risinginternational.com
  • Happy April,
    Carol Adrienne

     
    LAW OF ATTRACTION

    It was only The thin thread of a cloud, Almost transparent, Leading me along the way Like an ancient sacred song. Yosano Akiko / River of Stars: Selected Poems

    No matter what your day is like today, be alert for information in your emails or in your conversations that excites you-even minutely. This excitement is your intuition alerting you to something that might be to your advantage.

    Pay Attention to What Intrigues You

    A couple of months ago, I received an email from LISA LOVE, founder of SoultoSpirit.com. She announced that she would be hosting teleclasses through her site and that if people wanted to lead classes, she suggested they get training from TeleClass International. I immediately liked the idea of conducting a class on the telephone for a group (and will be offering a free one soon) because it means I'll have the ability to work with people I might not be able to reach by physical travel. For instance, some of you have asked me when I was coming to do a seminar in your area in such places as Colorado, Michigan, New England, Rome, Germany, and Finland. Meeting on the telephone helps all of us-less expensive for participants and less physically taxing for me.

    Follow Up

    Following up on my interest in Lisa Love's email led me to meet MICHAEL LOSIER, co-founder of TeleClass International. I took his tele leader training and absolutely loved it. I learned exactly what I need to know to make telephone classes interactive, fun and content-rich. (By the way, the synchronicity between us-besides good timing-is that we also share the same birthday-January 22!)

    After the tele leader training, I decided to take another tele class with Michael called Law of Attraction. Michael is a personal and business coach who teaches people--in his own words-- "How to attract what they want and stop attracting what they don't want." Many of you by now are familiar with Law of Attraction-the idea that like attracts like. Michael has developed some unique and very powerful techniques that, if you understand and use them, will increase your ability to attract what you want, and stop attracting what you don't want. I'm assuming you would like to have perhaps a great love relationship in your life, a wonderful career in line with your purpose, more money, more clients, better health, a stable financial flow, and opportunities to make a difference in the world.

    Curiosity Draws You Forward

    I asked Michael how he got started in his career. He says, "In mid-1999 I was conducting tele classes on how to be a successful trade show exhibitor. I noticed that out of about one hundred tele leaders, all of whom were from the States, I was the only Canadian. I was curious about who else in Canada was doing tele classes, so one day I did a search on the Internet. Rebecca Hanson's email came up. She was teaching tele classes on web design. I contacted her and our first conversation lasted two hours. She is a web designer and I am a seminar leader, and we just felt we were an ideal business match. We knew right away that we wanted to work together. I had been consulting for years in trade show exhibition and marketing, and people had already been hiring me to teach them how to be a tele leader, so we knew there was a growing need in this area. Within two weeks we came up with a business concept and a logo and formed TeleClass International. As soon as we got clear about each step we needed to do, everything started falling into place."

    Desire and Excitement Create the Flow

    I asked Michael how he and Rebecca handled the finances involved in starting a new business, because so many people feel they have to have a lot of money to start up a new venture. He responds, "The funny thing is, we didn't need any investment money because we were working with Law of Attraction-a philosophy which I had been practicing for years. As soon as I met Rebecca, I shared the concepts with her. Almost immediately, both of us could feel and see how things were flowing in based on our enthusiasm and love of what we were creating together.

    Anything You Focus on Expands

    Michael notes, "I was introduced to Law of Attraction in 1996, and I formed a little group to study it. At that time, none of us thought about applying it to the business world. Simply put, Law of Attraction (LOA) states that whatever you give your energy to, by the law of attraction (like attracts like), you will receive more of it, whether wanted or unwanted. For example, when Rebecca and I worried about class registrations being low, then few people enrolled. When we worried about not having enough income, our income was low. When we complained about not having enough clients--guess what--we got that, too.

    "In the early part of my career," continues Michael, "I was trained as a business coach. I taught people how to build their business through traditional methods, such as marketing, sending out flyers, buying advertising, having compelling signage and so forth--all the usual strategies which do work to a greater or lesser degree but also inevitably take lots of time, effort, and money. However, as I started getting results from my understanding and use of LOA, I naturally wanted to share that with my business clients."

    In 2000 Michael stopped traditional business coaching completely. Since then his coaching is exclusively on LOA-although it seems he can't help sharing practical tips and strategies about trade show marketing, or writing good titles for classes, or what needs to go on business cards-all free resources for students of Tele Class International. He says, "For years I felt I had to work covertly with Law of Attraction because I wasn't sure people would accept it. Ironically, this week, I was hired to be a keynote speaker at a Canadian government conference and they purchased 100 of my Law of Attraction books! Imagine, the Canadian government and metaphysics!

    Vibrations are Feelings

    "Recently," Michael says, "I was a presenter at a professional men's drug and alcohol program. At first the men were stuck on what I meant by feelings, but by the end of the class they had completely gotten the message. The fact that these men--who are normally so in their heads--really got in touch with their feelings really excites me. In order to understand LOA, you have to understand that your feelings are vibrations that radiate out from you whether or not you know it. Some people--often men--say,"I don't get feelings. I think about things. I don't know what you mean by feelings." So I asked the group, 'When you heard I was coming to talk about this subject today what kind of mood did that put you in?' A couple of people said, 'Oh, we were excited about it. We were looking forward to it.' I told them, 'Excitement is a feeling. Looking forward to something is a positive feeling.'"

    Results Match Your Mental/Emotional State of Being

    Michael makes an important point. While your thoughts and feelings are both creative forces in your life, feelings affect your energy field to an even greater degree than what you are thinking. On the one hand, what you think and believe is a measure of your self-esteem, past experience, and what you are choosing to give attention to. On the other hand, feelings set the tone for what you receive from the universal energy field. When you feel insufficient-i.e., not smart enough or physically attractive-it limits your results accordingly. Likewise, if you don't think something is possible, you are not going to recognize an opportunity when it comes.

    Law of Attraction is universal and non-judgmental. A newspaper article caught my eye the other day. An eighty-three-year-old man was found beaten to death in a poor area of San Francisco. The article said relatives remembered that everyday the old man prayed to be kept safe from wicked people (Carol's italics). I wondered how often and with what intensity he prayed, and if he specifically always included "wicked people" in his prayer. According to Law of Attraction, we want to limit attention to what we don't want and ask for what we do want-such as a peaceful and enjoyable day. This is not to say that everything in our life is there because of a conscious motivation, or that people create cancer because they are not positive enough. We can't always know the deeper spiritual lessons at work in our life, but as we grow in spiritual understanding, we understand that there are no accidents and something is always being worked out for a reason.

    Michael reflects, "Wayne Dyer (Manifest Your Destiny) says that you can get what you want by thinking positively and affirming what you want. But I challenge that. I think we don't always get what we want, but we do always get what we vibrate. Results are always a perfect match for you. The first thing to learn about how to stop getting what we don't want, is to focus only very briefly on what we don't like." Contrary to our ego's tendency for blame, self-criticism, and belittling others--or "working hard" to solve problems--dwelling on problems and blocks is completely counter-productive.

    "When you work with Law of Attraction consciously, your life is going to change in surprisingly wonderful ways," Michael says. "I've noticed that when I work on an issue with a client, I'll get results in my own life. For example, one time I was working with a client who's a coach, and he wanted to attract more clients. We spent a half hour using LOA verbal and written techniques. When I got off the phone with him, I had two messages waiting for me from people who had called to hire me. The lesson here is that LOA didn't know I was working to help someone else attract more clients. It just responded to the vibration of attracting clients. That's why things show up in your life that your buddy just told you he was looking for."

    How to Stop Creating Problems: Eliminate the Words Don't, Not and No

    As a first step in changing your attraction frequency, Michael suggests the following practice: Eliminate the words don't, not, and no from your vocabulary for three days. "Language is powerful. Listen to yourself in conversations. To what are you giving attention? When we use the words don't ('I don't like my job.'), not ('I'm not happy.'), no ('I'm afraid no one will show up for my presentation.'), we are actually giving attention to what we don't want. When you say, 'I don't like negative people,' you just gave attention to people being negative to you. LOA is obedient. It will give you more of what you dwell on. When you eliminate these words for three days, you'll find that it immediately makes you more present. It forces you to think of what you do want. You begin to feel and sound more decisive. Some of you may notice, for example, that when you decrease your judgments about people, negative colleagues don't come by your desk as often. Maybe your friends or family are unexpectedly easier to get along with--so much so that you notice it."

    What Do You Want?

    So what do you do when you catch yourself in conversation saying don't, not, or no? "Simply ask yourself, 'So what do I want?'" says Michael. "At first you'll need to remember to do this, but eventually it will become a new habit. It's a great way to stop the cycle of complaining from negative friends or family. Bring to mind somebody in your life who tends to dump all their problems on you. Next time you hear them go on and on about their problems, simply ask them 'So what do you want?' As they start to describe what they want, their words will change and so will their vibration. You won't feel their negativity anymore. It's a fact that you can't hold two vibrations at the same time."

    Reframe Your Reality so You Can Pave the Way for a New Match

    Michael says, "I have a friend who didn't like referring to himself as being unemployed. We reframed it so he could say: 'I'm employable.' The words changed and so did his vibration. He was thrilled and excited about the possibility of being employed.

    "Change doesn't take twenty-one days. Change takes a minute. We can take a minute to change vibrationally, and change will take place. If you're curious about what you are vibrating in any area of your life, just take a look in that area and see what you're getting. It's a perfect match."

    You Make a Difference

    If you want to do something to benefit the planet, begin today to put these spiritual ideas into practice. Millions of people have been expressing a collective desire for peace. You can help manifest that desire by remembering to focus your language on peace (not anti-war). How about shifting prayers and bumper stickers to: Promote Peaceful Solutions or Increase Peace rather than being Against The War in Iraq. Talking about The War in Iraq is counterproductive since, at this moment of writing, war in Iraq does not exist. Why give it a shape?

    Have fun playing with these ideas. I highly recommend Michael's new book, LAW OF ATTRACTION. This how-to manual emphasizes all the points you need to know in order to understand and use LOA immediately. I am including some of his techniques in my coaching and Life Plan consultations.

    Happy March,
    Carol Adrienne

     
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