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Message for MK September 27, 2009


"How do I deal with a narcissistic co-worker?"Recently my position at my job has changed. I previously was the Director of the Recreation Department with a staff of 5. I have a new administrator who has hired a good friend to change the direction of the department overall.  So now I am just one of the staff.  Due to changes the staff within the department has changed as well. One co-worker is very difficult to deal with he is very narcissistic, arrogant and manipulative with everyone he encounters  It has not been easy to step down. Please give me advice, if you would, on how to deal with the situation. I live in {X State} and the job market is horrible! Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

Dear MK,

I can understand how you might feel having to step down, plus deal with this type of personality in your co-worker.  Without trying to do a complete analysis of your whole numerology chart, I'll say this:

Your birthday numbers (called Birthpath) add up to 19/1, which is one of the four karmic numbers.  The 19/1 occurs a second time as a lifetime Challenge number--so it begins to seem an important element in your journey.

Nineteen (reducing to 1) is the reminder that you have to learn to stand up for yourself when the occasion arises.  You may feel unconsciously that it's a little scary to "stick your neck out" because in a previous life you may, indeed, suffered dire consequences for being different, being out of synch with your milieu.  This lifetime is another opportunity to be courageous when tyring to get into alignment with circumstances that make you happy (which this doesn't sound like it's doing, at present.)  Psychologically, you might be projecting your own inner conflict on this guy (not that I doubt that he really is self-centered)  But that's just the kind of person who is a good teacher for us.  In this case, I'd advise becoming aware of how much you resent his narcissism--and how much you need to be a little more self-directed (not narcissistic, of course.)  What you complain about in him, is a projection of what you need to do a little more of in your own case.  This is kind of hard to talk about in a sterile email note here, so I am trusting that you will get the point, or email me if you think I'm crazy!

Numerologically, you are i a 3 year in 2009 with a 3 Essence. Both 3's are encouraging you to be creative with your time and self-expression.  Try focusing on things that give you energy, more than worrying about this situation.  Writing, crafting, listening to music, taking up a hobby all help you focus on YOU.

This man is a teacher for you at this time, so silently bless him whenever you are around him (I know this sounds crazy) for being such a generous person.  Do this for a week or two.  Let me know what happens.






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