IR

"What can I do to earn a living and not be bored?" 

I have been married for 23 years and have five older children ages 11-20.
Recently my husband has been diagnosed with cancer that has spread to his lungs.

I have not really worked outside the home and our family since we have been married.
And I am not sure what I should do as a way to provide for our family.
I have written some, but nothing that has been published. I have an AA but that seems
useless. I have thought about learning transcription, and working from home. I have to plan to do something before I am forced to make a decision to take whatever I can find, work-wise.
By looking at my numbers is there anything that stands out that I might be able to do as a
career that will not bore me and also provide an income?

Thank you so much for any advice you may be able to offer to me.

Dear IR,

I am really sorry to hear of your husband's illness, and my sympathy is with you and your family. I have included below a special numerical synopsis of your Primary Life Chart to help answer your question.  As you can see your strongest traits are for being supportive, helpful, and inspirational to those who seek your advice.  Take heart in the fact that your first and middle names show the ability (both 1's) to take up things in which you have little experience and learn quickly.  Not only that, but your day of birth is 19/1--another emphasis on your life purpose being tied up with developing self-sufficiency when the need arises.  The 19 is a Karmic number which could mean that you and your husband have some karmic working out here--and that it's your turn to be strong.

You are an Old Soul with a good amount of intuition and inner wisdom when you are challenged to take command.  Don't be afraid of doing something for the first time, ask for help from others, and keep your sense of humor.  You actually do have a strong indicator showing a talent for writing (you may have been a writer in a previous life, but suffered from being a little bit too avant-garde or radical for your environment.  Thus, you carry an inner warning signal that may make you afraid to be criticized once again.  This is a lesson to learn and overcome.  You have strong tendencies for teaching and advising.  You may be happy in finding a place in a humanitarian organization where part of your duties are training, writing manuals or policies, and helping others overcome disabilities.  This type of work may be found in a non-profit, and you may not need an advanced degree.  This is my strong intuition for you at this time.  

After the age of 53, you begin to come into your own, and will have a fair amount of success and financial comfort--as long as you stick by your values, and work with the highest integrity.  I think writing will figure in whatever job you find, so don't worry about the burden of "writing a book!"

2009 is indeed a 4 Personal Year which means you feel the urge to plan, get organized, finish outstanding issues, and do whatever it takes to strengthen your foundation.  You are about to start a very exciting period which is initiated next month on your birthday and extends for a full five year period, ending in 2014.  Get ready to be more visible, take care of your appearance, and keep fit despite the strains on your emotions right now.

With warmest regards,

Carol 

First Name          1  Independent, self-directed, courageous
Middle Name         1  Independent, self-directed, courageous 
Last Name           9  Humanitarian
Destiny          11/2  Inspirer
Heart's Desire      2  Peacemaker
Personality         9  Humanitarian
Habit Challenge  16/7  Solitary/Skeptical
KARMIC LESSON(S)    8
Day of Birth     19/1  Perceptive and ethical
Birthpath        11/2  Inspirer
Realization      22/4  Master-Builder
Physically          3  Out-going energetic scattered
Mentally            3  Creative optimisitic easily-bored
Emotionally         7  Choosy, needs solitude
Spiritually         3  Psychic persuasive optimistic
FIRST PINNACLE (from Birth to age 34)       2
FIRST CHALLENGE (from Birth to age 34)      0
SECOND PINNACLE (from 35 to age 43)         1
SECOND CHALLENGE (from 35 to age 43)        8
THIRD PINNACLE (from 44 to age 52)          3
THIRD CHALLENGE (from 44 to age 52)         8
FOURTH PINNACLE (from 53 to end of life)    1
FOURTH CHALLENGE (from 53 to end of life)   8

Hello Carol, 

Quick question: I keep leaving/losing/misplacing things (power cords for computer and blackberry, scarf, wool wrap, are some examples)… I realize I’m busy/overloaded but I don’t believe it’s just coincidence/distraction.  I feel like it’s a lesson but I can’t figure out what I need to change/do differently. Any ideas? Would love your guidance on this because I’ve lost some things I love

Dear Lori,

First of all, losing small but necessary things could be a metaphor for losing parts of yourself--Lori is getting lost in the whirl, like a tumbleweed in the wind. 

However, don't underestimate the physical reality that you are "losing connections" with some parts of what you truly want out of life.  Don't try to figure it out--your losing things probably indicates that you have gone "unconscious" at those moments (believe me I do it, too!)  You are not present at that moment.  The pressures of immediate concern create a greater "trance" that has you  mesmerized.  The inner chatter probably sounds like, "Must hurry.  Must get this last thing done. Must not forget XYZ.  Gotta go.  I'm late.  They are waiting for me.  I've been dallying.  What's next?  What's next?," and so forth.

What to do?   Well, you must sincerely ask yourself this question.  "What is it that I need to do differently today?" "How can I change one small habit so that I can create breathing space at the beginning or ending of a "segment" of my hour, morning, afternoon, or evening. In fact, you only need to take perhaps 10- 30 seconds to become present to the moment.  One minute may seem fantastically long, when you are in a hurry and think you are behind schedule.  Try becoming more present in this way and just see what happens.  Whenever you do become present, I'll bet you'll find the need to take a deep breath!

Usually, our answers are far more mundane than we assume they must be--especially for those of us who love symbols and analysis!!

I love one of the statements which I think I heard from the great channel Abraham-Hicks--"You'll never get it done.  You'll never get it all done.  You'll never get it right."  You and I  WILL die with an unfinished to-do list somewhere in the vicinity of our deathbed! This is my morbid humor speaking, of course.

Carry on, you're doing beautifully,
Hugs,

Carol 

I have a question that I hope you can help me with.  I live in a '4" home and work in a "4" office.  I am always feeling overwhelmed and overworked.  What do i need to do to balance this energy or calm it down?

Thanks so much!
Donna

Dear Donna,

I notice that the first letter of your first name, Donna is also a 4 (D.)  The whole name, Donna, however, adds up to 3--the number of creativity, fun, joy, and love of acitivity.  Your first vowel 1s an indicator of what motivates you deep in your heart. This first vowel (O = 6) is an important part of your heart's desire number (also called the Soul's Urge.) I think you have an inordinate desire to always do the responsibile thing.

NOTICE YOUR INNER PROCESS 

My guess is that you have a deep need to never find yourself in a position to be "without."  You never want to be accused of not doing everything you can to make life "work out."  The house and office numbers are reminders that in this space, you need to be organized, practical, hard working, and to take charge of your life.

Therefore, the 4 is not the real culprit in making your life so busy and active.  If you use the 4 to organize your time, you may find that some things are time-wasters--busy, yes, but not adding to the overall benefit long-run.  

GET REAL BUT START SMALL

My advice is to take a hard and realistic look at your weekly schedule. Something has to go--anything that you don't have your heart into.

Something has to be added--YOU. Start off by finding 30 minutes during the week, that you will use only for yourself.  I know this sounds like a drop in the bucket, because we all tend to think we need to make draconian changes to our lives in order to make a difference. That's why we never make these big changes.  The trick is to start with a small change that helps you breathe life back into your day.

Finding thirty minutes or an hour and SAVING IT FOR YOURSELF could change your life. The important KEY to making this work is to mark off the time you have selected AHEAD of time.  Make it just like a dentist appointment.  You don't cancel it.  If something comes up during that slot and you need to reschedule, immediately write in another personal date for the following day or next week. 

Your 4 is not a negative task master.  Life is supposed to make us happy. Make it a point to use the qualities of the 4 wisely: 4 = ORGANIZATION, SYSTEMIZATION, TIME-MANAGEMENT, PRACTICAL DECISIONS, COST-CUTTING, EFFICIENCY, PHYSICAL EXERCISE, MASTERING NEGATIVE EMOTIONS (JUDGMENT, RESISTANCE, PROCRASTINATION, FEELING OVERWHELMED, OUT OF CONTROL, OR LIKE A VICTIM.)

1. SYSTEMATIZE--make a set of folders or boxes where you can easily find things (or where you can toss bills for later payment. Write in your calendar the day you intend to deal with this box, or the most important things in the box.)
2. PRIORITIZE--make a list each day of the top 3 things you MUST accomplish.
3. TAKE ACTION. do those top 3 things first.  Be sure to check off your items to feel satisfaction.  If you can do more without much stress, great.
   
4. ORGANIZE --add other chores to the list
   
5. VISUALIZE--offloading chores to a list helps free the mind, so write down everything--
6. ACKNOWLEDGE PROGRESS--checking off things gives a sense of closure and rests the mind
7. WALK--make a habit of walking a few minutes morning or afternoo as a break--this increases efficiency not be mention helping you lose weight and stay healthy
   

 Let me know how you get along!

Carol 

My answer to a reader who expresses what many people feel when finally taking the plunge and quitting their job. 

Dear Carol

I am a huge believer in the law of attraction and synchronicity; I have recently quit my job because it was absolutely eating at my soul.

In discussing life with so many different people over the years, I think my problem is more common than not.  I just quit "Corporate America" at a bank where 9 out of 10 hated their work but continued being miserable everyday.  The negative energy of the work itself and the environment was pulling me down with it.   I know so many people that are not living with their authentic selves out of fear of what they would do next.  I have taken a blind jump into the universal flow, and can definitely see the frightening aspects of it. 

  I feel free and happy again, but broke.

I am 30 years old and feel very lost and want so badly to find my purpose and make a difference.

I have read your book about the purpose of life, and James Redfields whole series of books.  Is patience all I am lacking?

 Her response:

Thank you so much for responding. You have made very good points and I will use them.

I, like many others, have defined myself by my career.  I guess after putting so many years and money into schooling, the focus remains fixated on the goal of attaining that success I have been working towards.  I will focus on my fortune of a wonderful husband and an exciting next chapter to my life. 

CD